I'm currently having a 'men-are-stupid-day'. It's unbelievable how they can be so selfish, immature and heartless at times. Why can be men such pricks?
It's as if they only treat you nice when they feel like it. First they're all over you, and the next thing you know they won't even answer your calls. I'm doing the best I can to treat everyone niceley and respectfull - both men and women. But I feel like some guys misunderstand the fact that women, also have feelings.
Men can be so selfish sometimes. They show hideous behaviour, as they expect you to be the first in line whenever they have troubles. But whenever you're in trouble; all you get to hear is to stop the drama and move on. But then again - when you call your (girl)friends first - and they find out - they feel discriminated as they're not the first you called. So there must be some more important people in you're life than them! They can't handle that and feel turned down. So in the end you'll have to save your ass by reassuring him because poor little sod isn't as important as he though he was.
They treat most women as lust objects they just want to have sex with. Nothing else. Just sex without any feelings whatsoever. Sure. But as soon as women start to show their feelings, they turn into old, grumpy dramaqueens, as said by men. As if men care about feelings! They're just interested in SEX.
To show you some great examples of how selfish and immature men can be: He just broke up and needs consolation - the first girl who treats him nicely will be the next victim. He'll like her and starts contacting with her all day/night long. Until all of a sudden he seems to be disappeared as he's not answering calls, messages whatsoever. That's when you have to discover - always through the most embarrasing and completely redicilous way - that he's back with his ex-girlfriend again.
Or! First hel'll make out with you all night, telling you he's single, until the moment you open your inbox with a message in it, telling that he's not quite that single as he said he was. In fact, you have to shut your mouth about 'what happened', because he doesn't want to get caught.
Or, what happens most, he'll fuck you and after a while you discover he's fucking 3680 others at the same time! You didn't know about that, did you!
The poor thing about all this is that their friends are exactly the same. So they have the ability to share what's 'going on'.
Argh.. I hate men! I get annoyed by it so much it ruines my day at times. They're just not conscious about what's going on, or how you feel about things. Because all they care about in the end, is their dicksize.
LUCKILY! There's still Carrie Bradshaw and her views on men and relationships! Praise the lord for Sex & the City-shoebox and Ben&Jerrys ice cream.
Okay, I'm gonna get slammed for this, but I think a lot of this is the nature of people/relationships combined with the different ways women and men see things. I don't blame you for hatin', but being a guy, I've seen my share of similar situations.
For example, the last THREE gals I've met have let things develop only to reveal they have boyfriends. Then it gets 'complicated' cause now there are mutual feelings but they don't want to hurt their men (even though those relationships are always supposedly on the rocks).
I could see this as a gender thing or just the fact that a certain (unfortunately large) percentage of the population is self-serving and too insecure to be straight up. There are plenty of aware, decent guys just as their are plenty of two-timing girls. I guess it just comes down to minimizing the bad and maximizing on the good when you find it.
Oh, these days my only solid relationship is with two men - Ben & Jerry.
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For example, the last THREE gals I've met have let things develop only to reveal they have boyfriends. Then it gets 'complicated' cause now there are mutual feelings but they don't want to hurt their men (even though those relationships are always supposedly on the rocks).
I could see this as a gender thing or just the fact that a certain (unfortunately large) percentage of the population is self-serving and too insecure to be straight up. There are plenty of aware, decent guys just as their are plenty of two-timing girls. I guess it just comes down to minimizing the bad and maximizing on the good when you find it.
Oh, these days my only solid relationship is with two men - Ben & Jerry.